“Why is getting healthy so hard? You already know the answer – your feelings. If you feel deprived of bread, you won’t stick to your gluten-free diet. The second you consider how you feel about eating salad for the next 113 days, you’ll convince yourself not to do it. The moment you scan today’s CrossFit workout and consider how you feel about doing three sets of 45 burpees with a bunch of people in a parking lot – you won’t feel like walking out the door and going. Will sticking to a diet make you happy? Absolutely. Will seeing your friends at CrossFit and working out make you happy? You better believe it will.” – Mel Robbins, The 5 Second Rule
When I first read this quote in Mel Robbins’ book, The 5 Second Rule, all I could think was “wow, how absolutely true is that?” We seriously do not recognize how much our thoughts and feelings impact every single decision that we make every single day, no matter how big or small.
We rarely follow our instincts and what we feel is right. Why? Because we spend too much time making our decisions and then fear, doubt, and uncertainty begin to creep in and we are left to settle and unwilling to face change.
This right here is the primary reason why so many of us struggle with getting healthy and changing our diets: we are afraid of the challenge. We are afraid of feeling uncomfortable, of getting out of breath, of entering into uncharted territory. We let our feelings dominate every aspect of our everyday life, we cannot let them dominate our health, at least not negatively.
Getting healthy can be scary because we FEEL scared of the new things we are about to face, not necessarily because getting healthy is actually scary. In fact, it’s actually the best possible thing you can do for yourself, your life, and your relationships with others!
In order to conquer these fears and move toward the health, wellness and lifestyle that we want, we have to learn how to separate what we need and want to do from what we feel about doing it.
What do I mean by this? Let’s take a look at my daily struggle with waking up and getting myself out of bed. When my alarm goes off, my brain formulates two very different questions, one being “should I get out of bed?” and the other being “do I feel like getting out of bed?” We don’t realize at the time, but these two questions mean two totally different things.
The answer to “should I get out of bed?” is always yes. I set my alarm to give me enough time to start my day without rushing and get to my appointments on time or to work when I planned. The answer to “do I feel like getting out of bed?” is almost always a resounding no. I’m still tired, my bed in comfy, I just don’t want to start the day yet.
The key here? One question and answer is productive and makes me a better person, the other holds me back and brings me down. But regardless of knowing these things, I usually stay in bed and start my day off the wrong way because I am making my decision based off of how I am feeling, not off of what is best for me.
To begin living our lives the way we want and to begin seeing the positive changes we want to see, we must enter change, every day decisions, and our health with a different perspective. We must work to remove our feelings as often as possible and go by what is right for us both in the present moment and for the long term.
Should I start going to the gym?
Do I feel like starting at a gym?
The answers to these questions are life changing and can either propel you forward into your best life or send you falling backward. Try putting your feelings aside and look at the answers rationally. What is best for you?